Long distance sucks. It’s the truth. However, distance is not a reason for separation if you truly want to be with someone.

I understand first hand how difficult it is. It can be challenging to find time to talk and go through experiences you want to go through together. You will be living separate lives and growing on your own. It also takes a lot of effort to improve and increase your communication when communication is all you really have. In my opinion, working at it is worth it. 

As many couples have been separated because of college or for other reasons, it disheartens me the amount of times I hear, “We broke up because of the distance.”

I understand that it is possible to fall out of love or want to live a different lifestyle, but claiming the distance is the reason for the break up is not a reason in itself. Distance doesn’t change how you feel about your significant other. 

Your decisions are what determine a relationship, not distance. Being with someone is a choice and putting the effort in to do extra while you are apart is a choice. Either you make that choice or you don’t. It is not only false to say we couldn’t handle the distance, but it is also simply a lack of effort.

If you see someone in your future and you are in love with someone, distance won’t change that. If you have other intentions, then a long distance relationship isn’t for you.