There are people — real, living, breathing people — who wake up, open their phones and immediately clock in for their full-time job of hating women. No pay, no benefits, just unresolved insecurities and familial issues. 

Welcome to the manosphere: a digital ecosystem where the takes are atrocious, and everyone thinks they’ve cracked the code of women despite not being one. And let me just say: it’s weird how they wake up and immediately start their little chant: women bad, women shallow, women goldiggers, women evil. They’re basically Frankenstein, but instead of a monster, they’ve built a sad philosophy out of whatever pathetic scraps they could find. 

Tragically, much of this stems from somewhere real — bad parenting, zero emotional intelligence, being told to “man up” instead of being taught how to actually process feelings. And as a result, we’ve got some men fully convinced that dating is some kind of stock market and that women owe them something.

Let’s also talk about the leadership of this manosphere cult. Half of them are scammers, half of them are under investigation and the rest are just too loud and wrong — pick a lane. Imagine taking advice from someone who treats empathy as a weakness and relationships as power struggle. That isn’t just misguided, it’s harmful as it isolates insecure men instead of helping them grow.

And before anyone gets too comfortable, this isn’t just a men’s issue. There are women out there doing the same thing, building personalities around hating men, swearing off relationships and acting as if bitterness is women’s empowerment. No queen, this is not slay, it’s nay. Go to therapy.

Deep down, this isn’t about truth or logic. It’s about rejection, about insecurity, about not getting what you want and deciding that warrants blaming half the population rather than realizing that you have some real issues. That’s toddler behavior. Grow up.

At some point, you have to ask yourself: what is this doing for you? Is it making you happier? More fulfilled, more attractive? Or are you just diving deeper and deeper into an echo chamber where everyone thinks they’ve got it figured out, but deep inside, they’re miserable.

You do this because hate is loud, it’s easy. It gives you something to blame. But it’s also making you insufferable. Love is harder. It requires effort and self-awareness by admitting that you might not be perfect. 

Right now, in this country, in this community, in this school, in your own homes, too many people are choosing the easier option: be bitter, be loud, be rude and call it the truth. To that, all I have to say is love is stronger than hate. 

So next time you feel like hating on anything, maybe you’ve got to try a little tenderness.